That’s My Jam: Valentine’s Special

That’s My Jam is a weekly feature where one person from the Selective Hearing staff goes to wax poetic about music that is pivotal to their musical tastes. Whether that would be an album, a song, or anything in-between. We all had to start somewhere. This week: Selective Hearing’s admin drops a mix tape of love jams.

Keeping It Smooth

Way back in my Euro/Brit pop phase of life this was one of the staple songs on heavy rotation on my Creative Nomad Jukebox. Yeah that big beast of on MP3 player from back in the day. And justifiably so.

Regardless of what you think of the whole boyband craze back in the day there were some damn fine songs out of that era of pop and this was one of them. There’s no trace of vocal gymnastics, just a bunch of Irish dudes singing about love.

And for those looking for material, there are some really good lines in this song you can use to woo your significant other.

Another out of the way back Euro boy band machine with Westlife and their song Swear It Again. Sure it’s typical pop fluff but since we talking about love it’s completely acceptable. And yes, this was also on heavy rotation on my Nomad.

This is definitely something that can be used as background music for a romantic dinner or in the early throes of baby making.

Ah, Brian McKnight and his classic Back At One. This is not the whiny, come back to me woman Brian McKnight from his debut album thank God.

Instead we get the more romantic side of this R&B crooner who was inspired to write this song after reading an instruction manual of some sort. Good stuff.

This one goes way back. You may see members of the R&B group After 7 and of course R&B super producer Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds in this sporting their best 80’s threads and bad hair.

This is one smooth track and who would not want to try to convincingly pull off the words from the chorus in a romantic setting? Guaranteed sell if you can do it right?

Discreetly Getting Busy

This is how you tell someone you want to freak them without being a disgusting perv. Of course this probably won’t have you laying pipe like a porn star if you get lucky, but if slow is the way there’s no better song to have as your soundtrack.

Another slow burner that emphasizes class over crass. You can’t really go wrong with lines like:

First I wanna take sometime
I just wanna look at you
Girl you are so fine
I cant believe youre mine
And all I wanna do
I wanna make love to you

Add the fact that Johnny Gill is singing his ass off like he’s never gonna get laid again only makes this song even more epic.

Blatantly Getting Busy

Produced by R&B lover man Keith Sweat, Freak Me doesn’t pull any punches in regards to what’s gonna go down or what your intentions may be. And if your partner just don’t get it I guess you’re in for a short night.

Perhaps not as overtly sexual as Silk’s Freak Me, it’s still pretty obvious what you want when this starts blasting out of the speakers. I don’t think anyone remembers them for anything but this song.

Maybe this song might be seen as begging for some action but you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes. Still, Jodeci are masters of the slow jam and this was probably the epitome of what they were best at.

When All Else Fails…

The dirty version of this is called “Fucking”. Obviously that isn’t radio friendly so it’s called “Touching” for public consumption. But the message is still the same nonetheless. I don’t think this can any more clear whether clean or dirty.

Here’s one where you can whip out your mighty kong and whisper “Wait til you see my dick. I’ma beat that pussy up.”

Yup. Nothing says love more than that.

If you’re just straight up horny and you just wanna get it on without the wining and dining just drop this sleazy bit of Hip-Hop.

Eazy-E ain’t no singer, he’s got other people doing that for him on this song. But man he says a lot of dirty, dirty things that can either be considered just plain nasty or classic one-liners.


There are a plethora of songs I could recommend but then this would just go on for ages. Perhaps next year I’ll do a Singles Awareness Day version of this for those who are still unattached.

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